October 9, 2014

Newly Married: To Change My Name Or Not?

Filed under: Married Life,Personal — Emily Reeves @ 12:53 pm


I just got married. Again. This one is forever, of that I am sure. I could not be happier. But, it has been eight years now that I have been using my maiden name again, and those eight years were critical growth years for my career. I feel like I would be discarding my professional brand identity if I were to change my name to my newly married name.

On the flip side, I am so happy to be married. And so proud of being “Mrs.” I want the world to know and I want to represent us as a family. Then, of course, there is the three-letter monogram that I have been craving for years! (My parents did not give me a middle name on the premise that when I married, my last name would become my middle name and I wouldn’t have to drop any part of my identity.)

Professionally, I want to use my maiden name. Personally, I want to use my married name. The question is: what do I do legally? Change it or keep it the same?

Legally changing a name is a painful process – social security card first, then driver’s license, then passport. Then credit cards, bank accounts and mortgage. I know the process — I’ve done it twice now. After my divorce, I swore I would never change my name again regardless of love and marriage that might be in my future.

But now that I have met the true love of my life and know we will be together forever, I think the hassle is worth it. And I will be legally adding that third letter to my monogram. It might be old-fashioned of me, but after weighing all the options I am ready to jump in and claim my married name.


September 8, 2014

Are Clothes and Shoes Taking Over My House?

Filed under: Home,Married Life,Style — Emily Reeves @ 8:43 pm

I have noticed patterns in my life when multiple changes happen in a short period of time. In 2001, I moved to Little Rock, started a new job, bought a new car, got a dog and got married all within in a six month period. In 2007, my mom died, I got divorced and withdrew from law school within a three month period. The 2011/2012 years were a period of significant emotional transformation for me as I adjusted to the death of my brother and a new role at the agency where I’ve worked since 2001. My year of “yes” was 2013 when I over-committed to volunteer opportunities, travel opportunities and career growth opportunities; it was a fulfilling but exhausting year and I don’t regret a minute of it. Now it is 2014 and in a six month period, I have added a third dog to my family, gotten engaged and am planning my wedding, am preparing to become a step-mom and am working through plans for an addition to the house.

And it is the addition to the house that is the subject of my thoughts this evening. The plans have been drawn and the contractor has completed his estimate. Enter the bank. Of course our tastes are more expensive than our credit line can handle. So my we had a serious conversation about what we really needed and why. The conversation landed squarely on the need for more closet space. To be fair, we need more space in general and we are about to be a family of three in a one bathroom house. But the closet has been our biggest pain point.

Approximately six months before my soon-to-be husband moved in full time and his seven-year-old daughter moved in part-time, I turned the guest bedroom in my house into my closet/office. When they moved in, I changed the room back to a bedroom — this time a little girl’s bedroom — and my closet moved to temporary quarters in the garage and free-standing clothes racks in the master bedroom, knowing that we were planning an addition to the house soon. Here are some pictures of my guest room turned closet:

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{a closet dedicated to boots}

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{bedroom turned closet/office}

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{bedroom turned closet/office}

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{bedroom turned closet/office}

I was disappointed to give up this bedroom-sized closet and have to walk to my garage each morning to “shop”  for the day’s shoes. But it was okay because I was (and still am!) in love and knew it was only temporary. Now as we discuss the needs vs. wants for the house addition, when the closet comes up as a “need” for the addition, I am questioning my addiction for clothes, shoes and bags. I love style and fashion, and really do believe that “presentation is vital and how you say it can be just as important as what you say.” But can I do it with less? I am already working to slim my collection by selling select items on Threadflip (shop my closet!). To that end, I am contemplating a “uniform.” Vera Wang does it (and argues that Jackie O did it), Steve Jobs did it — as have many others considered creative “geniuses.”

I haven’t found my “uniform” yet, but I know that too much time and energy and frustration have been going into my morning dressing routine. It is time for a change. Not only for my morning sanity, but because I don’t like the idea of my life decisions being dictated by the load of my clothes.

July 30, 2014

Today In Shoes: Happy and Powerful

Filed under: Daily Highlights,Style — Emily Reeves @ 6:55 pm

Tall, bright and pointy.

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My Kind Of Party

Filed under: Girl Gets Geeky,Personal — Emily Reeves @ 1:00 pm

To quote my Godmother when planning a beach vacation, “You can snorkel, boat, or beach-comb. Or sit inside and read like Emily.”

I found this phrase on a sweatshirt in my Pinterest feed. I was so me, I had to recreate it as a poster.

I like to PARTY.And by -party- I

July 29, 2014

Today In Shoes: Happy and Playful

Filed under: Daily Highlights,Style — Emily Reeves @ 7:55 pm

Shoes set the tone of my day. They establish my attitude. And without fail, wearing heels makes me feel confident. Bright colors make me happy. Black makes me feel sophisticated. Pointy toes make me feel powerful. Round toes make me feel playful. It doesn’t matter if I am having a bad hair day, am feeling a little overweight, or I have bags under my eyes: my shoes always fit and make me feel good. Yes, I have an extensive shoe collection. And for all the reasons listed, I never feel the need to defend my obsession with shoes.

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Working Girl: Modern Day Trapper Keeper

Filed under: Business,Girl Gets Geeky,That's Just Cool — Emily Reeves @ 7:40 pm

I come with a lot of baggage. My daily tote bag. My travels. And even to meetings. I say that I am high maintenance, but that I can maintain myself. And usually can maintain all the people around me with all the stuff that I carry with me. Over the last several years I have tried to lighten my loads, but that each attempt barely lasts: I start gradually adding the things that I might need. Or have needed in the past and don’t want to be without.

In a 40-hour work week, I spend, on average, 15+ hours sitting in meetings. In meetings, pens run out of ink, tablets run out of power, my lips get dry, I realize I need my glasses, notebooks run out of paper. Any number of things can happen. Since my motto is “always be prepared,” I want to be prepared for these situations. This means I don’t have to leave the meeting to find a pen, or paper or a charger. I like to believe that it makes the meetings more focused and productive.

Walking into a meeting with a stack of stuff balanced in my hands is distracting and makes me feel (and look) unorganized. Walking in with a tote  bag is overkill and embarrassing. I found a couple of pouches that worked for my purposes, but my stuff wasn’t organized inside making it hard to find the things I needed when I needed them.

After a friends posted a picture of the Mod Mini from This Is Ground on Instagram, tagging it as a “modern take on the Trapper Keeper,” I knew I had to have one of these. Sophisticated and stylish. A variety of inserts to fit my specific needs. Organized and easy to carry. Everything contained and just as I need it.

I have only had my silver Mod Mini for a week, but I believe I have found my perfect meeting companion.

July 26, 2014

Book Review: Show Your Work

Filed under: Book Review — Emily Reeves @ 2:50 pm


I can’t remember how I was first introduced to Austin Kleon’s work, but I’ve been following him ever since. Books, keynotes, Twitter, enewsletter and his blog all feed my hunger for his words of wisdom. I picked up this copy of Show Your Work at SXSW this year, but just now picked it up from my nightstand to read it. And I read it all in one sitting this afternoon.

In the book, he addresses the question of “getting discovered.” It is about so much more than that though. It is about the creative process and the work that goes into the end product. The value of the work that goes into the product is just as important as the delivered work, according to Kleon. Especially for building an engaged audience who feels apart of  the work that you are creating.

I loved this book and recommend it to anyone needing creative inspiration.

Book Review: Creativity, Inc.

Filed under: Book Review — Emily Reeves @ 11:12 am

After reading this review of Creativity, Inc., by Ed Catmull,  from my boss, I was excited to get my own copy and delve into its stories and insights. The opening of the book immediately connected with me as Catmull explained his career path and the challenges he faced moving from a role of directly being a film-maker to more generally being creative culture leader. In his words, “As I turned my attention from solving technical problems to engaging with the philosophy of sound management, I was excited once again — and sure that our second act could be as exhilarating as our first.”

With my pen in hand, ready to underline and take notes, I excitedly plowed through the 300-page book. I feel like I marked up well over half the book — it was that good and relevant. This is a book for company leaders seeking advice from an experienced manager on how to engage creative teams, yet keep them disciplined and interested. I was able to draw many parallels to the book Good to Great, by Jim Collins, as a modern-day bible for creative leadership and taking a business to the next level by “getting the right people on the bus.”

My favorite takeaways and associated quotes:

Team matters.
“Getting the team right is the necessary precursor to getting the ideas right.”

The story matters.
“For all the care you put into artistry, visual polish frequently doesn’t matter if you are getting the story right.”

Passion matters.
“It was unthinkable that we not do our best.”

Mistakes matter.
“The silver linking of a major meltdown is that it gives managers a chance to send clear signals to employees about the company’s values, which inform the role each individual is expected to play.”

Honesty matters.
“…without the critical ingredient that is candor, there can be no trust. And without trust, creative collaboration is not possible.”

People matter.
“The responsibility for finding and fixing problems should be assigned to every employee, from the most senior manager to the lowliest person on the production line.”

I highly recommend this book to leaders in creative companies and those just generally interested in the “behind-the-scenes” business and insider stories of Pixar Animation.